It seems to me that much of your marriage has been a battle -- a struggle between you and your W. It's entirely possible that your W, knowing exactly how to push your buttons, is doing so right here hoping to "get you" and make you explode with jealousy.

Disappoint her. Let her know that you are going to let her live her own life and will not try to control her in any way. Then, do it.

Keep focusing on how you can improve yourself and stop worrying about her.

The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)