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Should I just let her bring up the R talks?


YES! This is the most difficult and most important thing that you must do.

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how will I know when/if she is ready for more?


She'll let you know.

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I just want to scream.



I know, believe me I know. Actually, I recommend screaming, just not in front of her or your kids.

The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)