your right. Gel does have the patience of a saint. pfff.
There are several people here who would be inteseted in some insights that you as a asexual male... could provide.
However so far I see a lot of contradictions and incongruence in your post. I see a very specific adeptness at a certain skill, that doesnt jive with the words you are using. I can think of 3 reasons for it.
2 of them are pretty negative, but 1 may be of great help to you. So being the trusting sort of guy that I am, I am interested to hear more about you specifically and your 'sitch'.
any of the following questions that you would care to answer, in addition to HP and Lils comments.