Thanks for posting your sitch. It's hard to know who's being serious and who's here to make trouble, KWIM? So, for what it's worth, sorry we got off to a bad start.
I am sorry to hear that your W left you in such a vulnerable sitch. Would you mind telling us a little more of the history b/t you and W? Why did you want to stop having sex? How did the two of you get to the point where you didn't even discuss things afterward? You just let her walk away?
Regards,
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins