I am not up to date on your situation, but 6 months is not a long time. I was separated for a year (my H had a 1 1/2 year affair with someone 20 years younger). My H never gave up on reconciling and you know what, I'm glad he didn't. He kept inviting me to go places with him and I kept going. We faught a lot, which we never did before the A, but he was persistent in reconcillation. We went to counseling for a year, and we "dated" during this time. I just did move back home and we're doing great. I guess the moral of this story is don't give up. Couple of questions...
1) What do you and your W do for fun - together? 2) What brought you and her together in the first place?
I think you may be in "rut". Partly because of the infidelity, partly because you both are feeling empty. The two of you need to reconnect. Find somewhere that you can go as a couple. Something that you both would enjoy. And without being pushy - be spontaneous and romantic. Put your best foot forward, I believe that she will respond favorably. You don't have to just "co-exist". You can enjoy your M. Think of the things that made you fall in love with each other and bring it back home where it belongs.
