W31, OM20, part II

[RBinBR]

I wanted to explain a little more why a divorce would be so difficult in my case.

My family is horribly racist. When I married a woman who was half-Asian, my own family completely disowned me (as I knew they would), and I haven't seen them since except at my grandfather's funeral.

In some ways, I didn't consider it much of a loss. My W's family really "adopted" me as a son. They didn't just consider me the guy who was married to their daughter, because they knew that I was giving up my family to be with her. I call my in-laws Mom and Dad and really view them that way. I call my W's aunts and uncles "Aunt X" and "Uncle Y". They are my family now. I'm sure that I'm the only person on these boards with a WAS who is living with his in-laws, but it doesn't feel strange to me at all.

All that would mean that my W would "be around" an awful lot in my life even after a divorce. Since her parents would continue to see me as a son, I'd basically end up with my W as a sister. How in the world could I deal with that, and how could I even conceive of then marrying someone else and bringing a new wife into such a mixed-up situation?

This is one of several things that forced me back onto the DB train.