W31, OM20, part II

[RBinBR]

Hi RB, Just checking in on your thread, and I must say it appears you are doing GREAT! Your genuine detachment is giving you some perspective, and your observations without reactions are really great to see. I believe things are brewing under the surface here, in new and important ways. Stay lovingly detached. Continue to observe, and not get hooked in. I really like your plans for improving the already great YOU!

Thanks, PL. I also think things are brewing, but we'll have to wait and see what comes out of it.

I've been reading David Cunningham's book and daily emails (www.makingherhappy.com), and recognizing that I've recently been the "wuss" that women lose attraction for. According to his theory, my catering to my W's whims has driven her away, because women are naturally attracted to strength and being her doormat is the opposite of that.

I'm already getting some results with some of his stuff. Yesterday, W picked D up from school and came by. She mentioned something again about having lost weight, so instead of telling her that she looked good, I told her to stand up and let me see. Then I told her to "turn around (she turns) ... and let me see your butt." I then Mmm-hmm'ed appreciatively and she giggled when she realized I had tricked her into letting me leer at her posterior. Later, I mentioned that D and I were going to the movies, and since Thursday was her night for D, I told her it wouldn't be a problem if she came too (not really an invitation). "Oh! I want to come too." It turned out she had to work, but that's the first time she's wanted to go out somewhere with me and D in over a month.

She also asked me to keep an eye out for anyone who might want a puppy, since OM is leaving and she doesn't want to keep him by herself. I'm still not at all sure that OM isn't going to back out of the Army thing, but I guess we'll see.

If he does leave, it will be interesting to see what happens.