W31, OM20, part II

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Thing is you have to make a choice every day when you get up (as I do) that you are NOT going to do anything counter productive to YOUR mental wellbeing, NOR to W's best interests. That doesn't mean be a doormat...but I don't make snide comments to her even when the sitch calls for me to blast her out of the park. So be supportive of her efforts to be w/ your D, don't slam her when she doesn't do what a "good Mom" would do and if it isn't something that can be harmful to your D, just let it go.

That should be a lot easier now that my perception of her has changed. When I thought more highly of my W, I had higher expectations of her. Now, I don't really expect much of anything.

Actually, W spent a lot of time with D last week. I don't know whether it was that the week ended with Mothers Day, guilt resulting from my talk with her, the fact that she didn't have much to do at work, the realization that she's going to be alone after her boy toy leaves for the Army, or some combination of these -- but I don't have any complaints about last week.