Hi RB, It may be completely unlikely that your W will ever be able to, or want to, acquire these important attributes. And less likely in your timeframe of needs. But I wouldn't be at all surprised if your clear vision and articulation of what you want, deserve and value for your life turns out to be the catalyst for change that she needs, since you are now fully prepared to walk. Just like the LBS we have been, where we look inward and discover new things about ourselves. I hold the candle for your wife that she will hit her own rock bottom and take on her own growth, now that you're not there in the ways that you were. It may still be too late for you, as often happens. But I will hold that space for your daughter's sake. And I hope you can too, regardless of what you decide you need to do about your M. You still feel like you have a bit of an "edge" about it all, I suspect because all of this is quite new and intense for you. I wish you continuing reflection and peace as you proceed. We are with you
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
