W31, OM20, part II

[RBinBR]

Thanks, GH. The last couple of weeks gave me such a big dose of detachment that I'm really not at all concerned about my sitch or about W's reactions. I have changed dramatically since her revelation of the A last October, and I'm finally to the point I'm getting comfortable without her. These past couple of weeks have been key in that process.

Now, for some, this may be too much information, but I'm passing it along because it might be useful to someone else. Those of you who have followed my sitch know that I had a problem with porn prior to W's leaving, and that I have since defeated that sin. Well, part of my way for defeating it was to focus all my sexual desires on my W and make her the complete object of my attraction. Needless to say, that didn't help with my detachment from her. About a week ago, I decided to completely remove sexual fantasy from my life, including fantasies of my W. That one decision has done more to help me detach than anything I have previously done.