W31, OM20, part II

[RBinBR]

Thanks, PL. You are definitely right that she felt pressured. Of course, that was not my intention.

Normally, I would have been very angry with her for letting me and everyone else down after all that we had done for her in the previous two weeks to try to help her. I thought you could cut the tension at the table with a knife, and I felt sure that she was nervously waiting for me to explode at her or at least do some passive aggressive thing to her. (I did think about a number of such things this time, like tearing up her wedding dress or giving it to goodwill, since that day was all a lie .. you get my drift.) Anyway, I was trying to be nice and let her know that I wasn't angry, which is a change from the old me.

BTW, she did call me yesterday and apologize for storming out. That was the extent of our conversation, since she woke me up with the call and didn't want to talk more as groggy as I was.

She just seems overcome with guilt, has many others in her life telling her what to do (such as mother re: mall trip) and even though everyone thinks they have her best interests at heart, what's really in your wife's best interest is for her to find herself without influence from others.

Right, and I told MIL that, but MIL has a different attitude when it comes to protecting her only granddaughter.

We'll see what happens this week before the Disney trip.