W31, OM20, part II

[PositivelyListening]

Hi RB,

It is good to hear you doing so well. Your trip sounded wonderful, and just right.

I was thinking about your wife's reaction to your short chat:

Eventually, I kind of took her aside and kindly let her know that I wasn't angry with her and I'll be there for her when she's truly ready to end it with OM (though not for anymore halfway attempts to try). I actually thought that she'd appreciate my saying this, but she said "I don't want to talk about that now" and stormed out in front of everyone ... odd.

I think your wife remains very confused, and probably any R talk initiated by you feels like pressure. Perhaps even the idea that you are "waiting" for her feels like pressure. She is in a pressure cooker at her apartment too with OM. Just know inside that you will be patient. But I would suggest ignoring everything related to OM and definitely no R talk until your wife initiates with you. She just seems overcome with guilt, has many others in her life telling her what to do (such as mother re: mall trip) and even though everyone thinks they have her best interests at heart, what's really in your wife's best interest is for her to find herself without influence from others.
So keep doing what you are doing for yourself, and keep her wishing she was with you. Eventually if the strength comes from inside of her to choose you and your M once and for all, that will be what you want. It could be she has seen you as the strong one, and herself as the confused/messed up one for so long that she can't bear it. Hopefully she will find herself if you remain lovingly detached.

I look forward to hearing your further adventures in Disneyworld with your D. There is nothing more special than creating that kind of time with your little one. My D is already 24 and I can't believe how fast it went.