W31, OM20, part II

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Well, I certainly had an interesting night. W and D ended up staying here at the house, after friend convinced W that the apartment was not a good place for D. (I obviously agree. When we stayed over there before, it wasn't fun hearing D ask W "Whose toothbrush is this, Mommy?")

Anyway, that was fine with me since I had to work last night 11p-7a and wouldn't be around. Anyway, I got a call at 3:00 from MIL saying that W was in horrific pain and needed to go to the emergency room and MIL would stay and watch D. I hurried home and rushed W to the ER.

It turned out that her horrible abdominal cramps were caused by bacterial cervicitis, an infection of the cervix and vagina. This is fortunately not the result of anything sexually transmitted.

We were in a room in the ER for over 2 hours before we saw the doctor, and her pain largely went away and she just wanted me to hold her, massage her, and caress her the whole time ... all very sensual without being sexual. That was all very nice, and I know that she very much appreciated my taking care of her.

On the flip side, it was sickening to listen to her discuss if the birth control pills she had been taking (and then stopped because they made her nauseated) could have played a role and listen to the doctor discuss with her if she could be pregnant (which made it nerveracking until the doctor came back with the lab results).

I also snooped a little with her cell phone and saw that she and OM talked 4 times last night between 8:30 and 11:30, so she clearly isn't done with him by any means. It's only 10:55 this morning and OM has already tried to call her 6 times this morning, plus a text. (I took her phone so she could sleep, but I could watch to see if she gets an page from her work, because she often has to make sales calls on Saturdays. She ended up with a morphine shot last night, so she needs some rest.)

All that just convinces me that going away for a while is more important than ever. W clearly hasn't finally ended things with OM, but I think it's also clear that she's planning to keep him in Florida for the time being. I think my leaving will keep him there while I'm gone, it will give W the space and time to make the right decision, and I won't have to do this daily worry dance about what she's telling him.

It was probaly good, though, that we were very affectionate last night and I was able to take care of her. It should help her to miss me while I'm gone.