Sorry for the down time. I know how you feel. It's a double edged sword because not only does what they do hurt, but the fact that it DOES hurt, hurts too because it tells us we are not as "ok" or detached as we thought we were.
I wish I could tell you something better than hang in there but I can't this part, where they seem to want to come back but don't really know how (Frank is going through this too on the "separated" board) is the hardest part because I think this part, more than the rest, does not really go by the book. Sure, there are universal things we can do to stay sane and try to understand them, win them over, etc, but by and large, this is a "feel" thing that is different in each sitch. My W could want me to be aggressive in pursuit. Frank's W could want confirmation that she'll still have space in their marriage. Your W could just need the confusion of the OM gone to see the light.
I know we debated the role of different philosophies yesterday but I think NOW is the time for you & I to really reach out to find help in dealing with the uncertainty we are facing. I know you have not only your knowledge, but your faith and I think both will serve you well here.
Accept the pain, know that it stems from you choosing to do something VERY difficult and that in the end, you will grow and be better for it.
