I am going through a somewhat similar, but not really similar situation. I talked to my two friends that had the same problems and gave me following advice. One of them had this issue going on for 3-4years and the other got divorced. I hope these helps: 1. no point in arguing. At this stage, she is very confused and don't know what to do either. Don't argue with her over this issue, and don't even mention. It's just like my H. Because I had argued with him twice on this issue, he is now extra sensitive and would take everything as attacking him and intruding his privacy. Even if your intention is to care for her, she just won't respond in a positive way but interpret it negatively. 2. you need to know if you want to keep this marriage or not and think about what is your bottom line. If you want to keep this marriage, then do not leave at all. It will be tough and hard, especailly emotionally. If you decided to keep this marriage, start planning things on your own as if without her. Do things on your own or go out with friends, share your emotions with friends. This is a situation where we can do nothing about their behavior. The only thing we can do is be patient. Don't nag and don't push. The more you push and the more she will turn away. But it doesn't mean you don't show her any care. YOu show your concern, but to the point only. 3. At this stage, don't expect you can have intimacy with her at all. I gave up and start concentrate on working my own problems. I thought of moving out, but not anymore. 4. The turning point for one of my friends is when she lets go and let him do whatever he wants. This is when he started to come back and care for her. 5. If you are a church goer, pray. I absolutely understand how you feel and how helpless you are in such situation. I truly can feel for you. I hope these help.
