Quote: I think mojo did a good job answering it - compartmentalization and addressing each need with a different strategy.
See, sex used to fix all my needs - touch, anxiety control, stress-release, desire, and the actual need for sex. Compartmentalizing my needs has allowed me to address each one with or without my W. In the end, I only want sex with her about 3 times a month rather than a couple times a week. Touch and stress-release was a biggie and I've solved it with massage twice a week. It's not a sexual thing (especially when the guys do it). Anxiety control has been addressed with a combination of things - cognitive approaches (nip it in the bud) combined with meditation and breathing. MB helps a bit too.
Dave,
This was good -- thanks. I'm thinking of maybe looking into massage as a tool for me, and you brought up some good thoughts there.
