What Happened with the Schnarch Movement???

[NotATLDave]

It occurs to me after reading your post that there is another way in which the desire issue is different for HDW as opposed to HDM. If instead of regarding the lack of desire as an insult, you regard the presence of desire as a compliment, most reasonably attractive HDW get compliments from men who are not their husbands quite frequently. This sexual market disequilibrium can be quite unsettling and is probably the reason why,according to survey statistics, marriages in which the W is the HD spouse are much more likely to fail than marriages in which the M is the HD spouse.

I believe it. I know I come off as HD but I also travel on business, and go into modes where I work continuously....I might have trouble with a spouse who expected me to initiate in sync with their desires and get it right enough of the time.

That was one critical point of my C...the "in sync" part. It's highly unlikey that any of us will ever be in sync - though I'm fairly quick to get in sync when W is in the mood. ;-). Her point is that you have to let your partner know you are horney.