What Happened with the Schnarch Movement???

[NotATLDave]

Dude, you are so funny.

Is this really possible? Can a person be happy in a passionless marriage?

I guess it depends on how you define passionless marriage. Do you really mean sexless? These are two very different things. Why is a marriage passionaless when one person has no passion and the other does? If her lack of passion (or let's called it anything...grapejuice)...why should your W's lack of grapejuice make you give up your grapejiuce? If you have grapejuice, then your marriage isn't devoid of grapejuice...it's just that in your system, you are responsible for the grapejuice. If your W doesn't want grapejuice, don't throw yours away...enjoy your own grapejuice or share it with someone else.

How can there be passion when there is no desire?

If passion = sex, then her willingness is a desire to make you happy. With proper training she can even fool you into thinking she has sexual desire. If it's imperceptible, then what difference does it make? Better yet, what if you train yourself into seeing that other things she does for you is her form of desire. Desire can exist without sexual feelings. Does that suck? Then welcome to your marriage. Make it work or leave.

And isn't the lack of desire effectively a huge insult to the one that is not desired?

If you are claiming that your W doesn't desire you AND a lack of desire is an insult, then dude...why would you stay married to someone who insults you daily. Why give someone that type of power...that's just sick.

I only get a little bit of desire from some employees, co-workers, my daughter and my wife...none of the other hundred or so people I encounter each day don't desire me at all. I don't feel insulted...should I?

Think of it this way, would it make a very LD women happy to have her husband completely stop desiring her?

Depends on the type of desire doesn't it? In terms of sexual desire they wouldn't even notice. "Desire" to your W might simply come from your presence in the house. Also, she might be measuring her desire by her own low standards. I really think you need to get a girlfriend on the side. I'm serious. Despite what moral high-grounders say, an affair is still a valid option for your toolkit. Get honey-phone with a pre-paid card...my driver is managing 2 girlfriends besides his W. Over here, mistresses and concubines are all the rage. Maybe you should move to this part of the world. Hold up that blue passport and you will be devoid of insults by every girl in the room.