What Happened with the Schnarch Movement???

[NotATLDave]

Can you explain this? I don't know what you mean. I can tell you that adopting the sexually dominant role is what would feel artificial to me

Then what's the problem in your R?

You might discover that he's everything you ever feared and you might discover that, when you are you, you aren't terribly attracted to your husband. I hate to say that but that's at least a starting point. Schnarch even discusses a case where the woman says she really isn't that attracted to her husband after all. That's the risk Corri was talking about. Pulling back the curtain and reveal the wizard. Trust me, when you put all cards on the table, you will start working through ways to make it work.

I went through the same process and discovered that I'm not totally attracted to my W in terms of the things I find attractive/intriguing in other women. But I also value her for so many other things and our compatibility is steller. She's worth the investment and like I said in an earlier post, I'm having some "moments" where she's really attractive to me. If this continues, we will be bulletproof...but right now, I'm still a bit cautious...it feels like a rebound R.

...I think we'd all agree with that.

...and perhaps to most women

I value *your* opinion when you speak to me. I don't need reinforcement. Like Schnarch said...always speak from the *i*. You will sound much more confident.


Sorry honey, I feel like I was really hard on you this time. I'm about to disappear soon - that's why I'm pulling out my big guns.