Perhaps. But it's based on a comment from my H that went something like this: "I don't want you to initiate all the time."
Quote: I may be going out on a limb, but the issue is probably less about how *they* actually respond and more about *your* need to believe that they are the big "virile man".
Actually, I think both are true. It's true that I want to think of my H as a virile man--because I'm not all that attracted to an effeminate, libido-less man--but it's also true that my H wants to think of himself this way. No man wants to feel emasculated by his woman, I think we'd all agree with that.
Quote: Your avoidance of a dominant role means that you are creating somewhat of an artificial reality.
Can you explain this? I don't know what you mean. I can tell you that adopting the sexually dominant role is what would feel artificial to me, and perhaps to most women. I think Jenny and I are closest to being true female sexual aggressors and even we don't *prefer* it that way, as a matter of course.
