BE YOURSELF. Express who and what you are, authentically. Dave's point here is... go with THE MOMENT. Most of you are anticipating problems based on past experience. What Dave is saying is, if you want to initiate, initiate. If you get turned down, deal with it in the moment. The ensuing explosions you are all referring to is exactly what Dave is talking about.... THAT is the crucible. Then follow the rest of his advice.