I have a similar issue to HP. If I initiated every time I was interested the man/woman dynamic in our R would really hit a snag. H likes to see himself as a very masculine guy and having a W who is the principal initiator seems to mess with that. He really likes me to initiate and be the sexual agressor once in a while and he relies on me to take whatever mild attempts at initiating that he makes and ramp up the situation into sexual heat but when I iniate too much or too close together we get problems. I have come to suppose that to follow Schnarch I should still initiate whenever I want but not accept less than enthusiastic participation until H is willing to take up the guantlet of initiation. I don't know. This issue is difficult when you are a woman who really values being pursued as part of her sexual satisfaction.
