I didn’t know you were still watching the board. I’ve been reading up on your past threads so I’m glad you’re here. Since you seem to have successfully applied Schanrch to your marriage, what other advice can you give to us here, assuming you’ve been able to keep up with some of the posters?
Reading your history I have the impression that your wife was never extremely detached or angry to the point that she withdrew from the marriage. So she seemed to respond well to your changes and growth. I know there was a “learning curve” for her, as she adjusted to the new you, but you also seemed to put in a LOT of time and thought analyzing everything that happened to prevent mistakes and follow up on successes. Is my interpretation correct?
Some of us seem to have spouses who are more resistant to growth than your wife. I have the impression that little progress will be made in without applying a certain amount of pressure, “rattling the cage” as Corri puts it. Do you have any insights here?
Let me also ask you a specific question about CeMar (I do not mean to pick on you CeMar, so don’t take this wrong). I see CeMar as an very interesting example. He has been on this board for years, and I cannot tell any difference in his postings now versus three years ago. There is some major blockage keeping him from moving forward. Maybe he is doing all he can and it is his wife. But I view him as a VERY extreme case. Progress in his sitch could reveal some valuable insights for all the rest of us. Any thoughts?
