I understand. I faced that same dilemma too. Time will take care of that. Either you settle into accepting things as they are or the frustration and resentment builds to the point you cannot take it anymore. If you decide to press for a change, but that point is a few years forward, it is possible that things will be even harder to overcome then than they are now. And in the meantime, you are living with the all the negative undercurrents and how that impacts the kids.
I decided I was not going to wait another10 years of putting up with that mess. I also believe that while things would get worse, the healing that would come from a repaired marriage would be the best therapy for the kids. I believe the message in seeing their parents work together to make a happy home can do more for them than all the therapy in the world trying to heal the wounds from years of walking on eggshells. I believe the sooner problems are addressed the better. But that’s just me.
