Sadly, and tragically, of course it will wear you down. And what a horrible thing to think of facing your future without the capital you've (You've) worked so hard to put away to guarantee a comfortable, more relaxed without the need to work, future.
It's all very upsetting, but at the end of the day, you'll have to do whatever the law requires, and you won't get a judge to sign off on it until that happens.
Is it fair? It didn't used to be, as the straying spouse got left holding the bag, but more and more all assets are split fifty-fifty: just like dissolving a business arrangment. It probably unclogged the courts a bit.
So, I truly feel for you--you did not deserve this, nor do you deserve what may happen. Get your affairs together and make the best of what you can.
