Quote: BUT - she had been drinking, so could all be different story in the morning?
No, she was buzzed but not out of her mind. She said she had been formulating this for the past 3 weeks.
Quote: Where does she expect you will go while she is staying at home on her weeks?
That's what I wondered. I'm a stay at home dad. I have no job. She mentioned I could stay with my 83 yr old mother in her tiny condo. No way. Perhaps get an apartment. We don't have the kind of money to support two households.
Even more unacceptable is the thought that OM would be living in my home. With my kids. Ridiculous. Never. He has a large $300,000 home in an affluent suburb about 40 minutes away. It doesn't make sense.
Quote: They act like this is no big deal and do not understand why we do not jummp for joy at our new life style. They just seem to believe that the grass is just greener on the otherside for now, but are afraid of loosing the safety net of the past
It's all a mess. Everything she has suggested is what would work best for her. I wondered why she was so eager to continue sinking money and time into home improvements around here.
Speaking of safety nets, W also told me last night that she still considers me her best friend. THat if something significant happens, she picks up the phone to call me, not OM. I told her I found that confusing.
She confused. This conversation has once again prodded me out of my comfort zone and into the hell of trying to work things out.
Fortunately, I had already made an appointment with my lawyer for next Thursday, so I will find out how far she can push me. I told her that since I am losing my marriage, my wife, my kids (part of the time) and half of my belongings, that the least she can do is let me buy her out of her share of the house. She was angry and said that she would force a sale. I hope the law is on my side....
