Hi Yoyogirl, yes, we are indeed DBing.com contemporaries. It is so nice of you to check in....
Journaling:
Ugly discussion tonite. W came home half in the bag at about 11:45 pm, out with a coworker (not OM). She decides she wants to come home and talk about custody and such after months of moratorium.
She says once again she still loves me and even says that she hasn't given up on us and alludes to the possibility that we may be together again some day....but that separation for now is inevitable. SHe is in love with OM and must follow that road for now.
Her big plan that she revealed to me tonite is that she would like for us to share the house. The kids stay, get their stability, mom moves out one week, dad moves out the next and mommy and OM move in.
I tell her no way. She gets mean and says 'then we'll put the house on the market, etc.'
Back in October, when we were on the brink of filing for the D, the plan was that she would move in with OM and we would shuttle the kids back and forth. I even had her agreeing to a 65/35% split in my favor, as long as she would get an extra day and a half a week with the kids without an overnight at the adultery pad.
I agreed at her behest to hold off on the divorce and now I am facing much more of a fight than I had hoped for.
But fight I will. Sorry for the bummer news, its not what one wants to hear on these boards...soon I'll have to move to the divorcing boards.
