Thanks, ThatGuy, its been a while since I've seen you around. Some of us continue to hang on.
So, I followed your web site and found an ad for this guy's book. Can you give me a few examples of what he recommends?
I fear my marriage is all but over, though W and I don't talk much about things. She does still, however, talk like she plans on continuing our current open marriage set-up after the divorce.
The other day I bought a new cell phone and learned that it didn't come with a car charger. I told W that it had an unusual jack, quite unlike my last phone by the same manufacturer. "Mine has an odd jack too," she replied, "Maybe they're the same....that would be great!"
"Why?" I asked.
"Because if they're the same, when we go on trips, we'll only need to drag one battery charger with us..."
In the meantime the issue of our $1000+ bonus credits on our Disney Visa card came up. W has asked me to check out the possibility of taking our family on a trip in the fall to WDW. So, this is firming up to be one odd divorce.
But I know that things have progressed towards the big D farther than ever. The other day W's mom called while W was out and she asked me what was up between W and I. I asked what she knew and she replied that W had told her that we were having troubles, were in counseling and headed toward divorce....Nothing was said about her 1 year old affair with the scumbag OM.
I tried to talk to my MIL, but it was difficult explaining things without talking about her affair. "There's more that I could say," I explained, "but W will have to tell you that."
After many minutes skirting the issue, I finally spilled and told MIL everything. She seemed to have a good idea in light of her questioning and in light of what she said she told W.
I told her that it'd be easier for me if she wouldn't reveal that I spilled the beans, and MIL agreed to keep her mouth shut. I talked to her a few days later and she said that she hadn't even told W that we talked about our marital difficulties. Anyway, I am potentially in trouble for revealing this....oh well.
Its been several weeks since W dropped the second bomb (asking that we continue with the divorce, months after we kind of agreed to let things coast), and she's done nothing to move it along.
I spoke to our marriage counselor. He advised me in our conversation that there was 'trouble in paradise' between W and OM, and when I asked if I should go file, he told me to sit tight...that she may never follow through.
There have been other interesting developments since my last post, but since I'm here so infrequently, it'd take up too much space in one post. Perhaps I'll pop in again soon, depending on any replys or advice.
Thanks for everyone who tunes in and especially those who write and offer support and advice. Again, ThatGuy, I'd be interested to hear more about your new book....
