Yet Another #$%&#! Chapter

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First and foremost is no one can ever replace you as your kids father! You have proved how great a father you are! In the middle of all this it is hard to see, but you must know that your kids will always see you as their Dad!

The OM defintely is not ultra moral! Far from it! If he had morals he would back off, allow your W to save her M, or wait for the D. My W told me the same thing about the OM. That he hated dating a married woman and pushed her to talk to a lawyer and go for a D, but was not ready for any long time commitment! And our W think we were controlling!

I would also stop hiding her affair! I would not go out and tell everyone...far from it! I would talk to people that you trust and believe will suport you and your W. This is what destroyed my W. She knew what she was doing was wrong, but had no consequences! Everyone thought all was well with us. As soon as people knew the truth she had consequences. Reality was now in play!

I am not sure if that would work with your W. Everyone needs consequences to their actions. I did not want to admitt that my W was having an affair also. Once I did the support came pouring in and i felt whole as a person again. In a way I was in denial also.

You are a good person for fighting for your M! Never forget that! You will always be a good father and your kids will love you for that! Be good to yourself!