Thanks, Tim. I remember posting on your thread back in early January when you first arrived here. I've not been around for a while and just spent some time catching up on your sitch. First of all, congratulations. Its so nice to hear success stories.
I don't know how much detail I went into up above, but I had seen a lawyer several times and was about two days away from filing back in October when W freaked out and asked me to hold off on things. SHortly after that she told me that she still had hope for us....then continued to run off for weekly overnights with OM.
I hung in there, and with each passing day I felt that perhaps we could work things out.
But W is again saying that we should get on with the divorce. She mentioned that her 'ultra moral' OM is having a hard time continuing to date a married woman. I'm wondering if this isn't her primary reason for saying she's ready for the big D.
So, I don't know if she'll crumble at the sign of a divorce decree a second time. Like your situation, we are still hiding W's 9 month affair from our families. I have lied for her when her mother called on a few occasions when she was with OM...
It still seems possible that could change - stranger stuff has happened....Just tonite she was relating a conversation she had with her girlfriend who's parents separated for a year after mom's infidelity, but eventually got back together and are still together 20 years after their problems. W told the girlfriend that that story still gives her hope for her marriage and family.
An hour after telling me that story she put the kids to bed and headed off to OM's bachelor pad for the night.
I had pretty much prepared myself for divorcing and the child custody tragedy back in October, but this second time around is just as disconcerting.
I have decided that I will not sit around and go through this a third time. Something has to give.
I just can't bear the thought of giving up my kids, or worse, having OM be stand in daddy while they're with mommy. How does one cope with this?
