Re baseballmom
He seems to think I am the one with the S issue, not him. He thinks I am a nympho, which I am not. I just like intimacy with my H. He should be thrilled I love S with him, right?

Your H sounds like a twin of my W. Just change the gender of the wording in your post and I might have written the post.

Just wanted to say Hi and it is common for posters to want to keep the R calm, not get the spouse bent out of shape, etc. Sometimes you have be very firm regardless of what you think the outcome will be. Maybe not now, but thinking "later" is a common mistake.

Lou