Darling Tilly, (has a nice ring, doesn't it? )

It occured to me that if your H was thinking about becoming a priest that perhaps "magic" wasn't the best model to use as magic has a bad connotation in Christian circles. If that is the case you might check out: http://www.marriage.org/CoreValues/Links/Free_First_Aid/free_first_aid.html

There, instead of "incantations" to break a "spell" she calls on God. AIN'T NOBODY GOOD AS GOD AT BREAKING SPELLS.

If you have a Christian bent the page will do you a lot of good. It helped me and gave me the idea modeling the fairy tales.

Either way, I feel for you and wish you the best of outcomes.

Tom