Nicegal, Good questions. We are very close in our marriage - talk a lot about everything. I work with him in his office and know him well enough to know there is no one else. He does have low testosterone - he is supposed to use testosterone cream and get periodic shots. He sees a really good doctor who uses natural methods as well as medical treatment. But he quit using his cream because he just doesn't have the drive and I don't believe he misses it much either. Don't mean to offend many out there but I believe some of this is due to his catholic upbringing. He was planning on becoming a priest while in high school but his mother bullied him out of it because he was the only son of an only son and she wanted the family name to continue.
As I look back our problems began when I became pregnant with my third son. We were doing very well until then - baby was a big surprise and blessing but my pregnancy was awful. He began going to strip clubs with some business associates while I sat at home with 2 other small children. I spent most of that pregnancy alone and when I told him how much that bothered me the problems began.
He doesn't go to those places anymore - quit shortly after the third was born but the sexual problems began then and have never been resolved despite talking quite a bit about it.
I am growing very resentful and trying just to keep things together so my kids can have a happy home. It gets hard sometimes, doesn't it.
