1) I would really reconsider seeing a Counsellor who recommends seeing other people. That could only confuse your issues.
2) How old is your H? He could be going through a mid life crisis.
3) Love is a decision. Is is respect of another character. If you had feelings at some point those are possible again. But it is common for feelings to change. Absolutely! In my opinion if things are on the up and up, no one else is invovled..either EA or otherwise, then both are willing to some degree to work on the marriage. ie. he wishes he could be willing?
4) What does you H say specifically that he finds unattractive about you, does he know?
5) If there was once chemistry, it can happen again...court each other, improve yourself, grow personally, discuss the things that have driven you apart...ie. sex and etc.
6) I wonder if he is being completely honest with you. He may have his eye on someone who is sparking his interest...even for those with whom it is out of character...faith or beliefs...these things can still happen.
