I haven't been here for a really long time. I have a very rough insight. I don't have much time.
The REALLY short version: The courting dance is performed by princes and princesses. MY princess is locked in a tower that I have to scale and then I have to coax my maiden out because she's under a spell. But, that's another story for another time.
It makes for a workable model, though.
Many princesses are NOT under a spell (like you). But, they can still have problems. For example, they're married to a frog, and not a real prince. Then there are the princes who don't see their mate as a princess. You could say that THEY were under a spell.
A WILD guess as to what might work: Wake him up. Dress up. Not as a full blown princess - and certainly not just in a thong. Make yourself over into something that he can aspire to. Not all at once, either. Put your hair up. Be proud, but gracious. Remember, real nobility isn't arrogant. Nor does its panties come off at the first hint of interest.
I have no idea if this will work. But, looking better couldn't hurt your self-esteem.
