I am new to this site but have read The Sex Starved Marriage through and through - it was a tremendous (tremendous) help! Been married over 20 years but our sex life died about 10 years ago when our third child was born. He was rather a surprise (a blessing) but it took a while for hubby to adjust. Then we went from once a week to once a month and then gradually to once every other month and then whenever. I would initiate and he would shrink from me and I got weary of the rejection. When i finally asked about it he just shrugged his shoulders. Then he went through a bout with impotence and finally went to a doctor who gave him testosterone shots. I thought our troubles were over but he still was not interested in sex at all. Then last week he went out to a bar to watch b-ball games and came home rather tipsy and mentioned something about how "he used to love me." Now he even shrinks when I try to hug him.
I love him, love my life, love my kids, love my home, love my job, but this is driving me crazy. I feel "unclean". I know him well enough that if I confront him on this he will only twist things around and blame me. I have chosen to not 'rock the boat" but it is really driving me crazy. Any advice?
