I think you are right. I am going back to being detached. GAL, etc. He needs to be busting his a$$ to make it work. If he isn't willing to put in the effort then we certainly are doomed.
Thanks for taking the time to post.
it is just so hard because I want to share our lives and don't want to push him away, yet I can't have him in my life if we aren't talking about the real issues, trying to truly heal from this. He keeps saying that we are only a week into it, that we aren't back together and he doesn't want to answer to me. Ummmm. okay. He is a child and wants what he wants but doesn't want to do the work to make it happen.
The next time he asks to come over I think I am going to be *busy.* He was spending every free minute with OW prior to the split and now he wants to hang out with me once or twice a week. Doesn't seem really committed to me.
SO back to the keeping myself sane, whole. I learned that I create my own happiness, and this is not happiness. I am choosing to allow him back in when he is not ready to do what I need to make the relationship work. We need tons of R talks, what we want, how do we get there, not just face-time as we watch TV and hold hands.
Funny how a few months ago holding hands would have made me happy. Not anymore....
