Doobie....first off, do you have access to his cell phone records? If you don't, that's one of the best ways people carry on affairs and hide it, by using a cell phone. You need to see the activity on it. Since he was talking with her on his own phone he probably doesn't have a secondary phone that he hides from you (some people go that far). If you can view his bill (online preferrably) then you'll be able to see his incoming/outgoing calls and the frequency of them. If there's any particular number that pops up regularly (besides your home, work or your cell numbers)...RED FLAG!
Next...credit card statements, do you see them? Do you have access to view all charges? The computer, does he clear the history on it after he's been on it? There is absolutely no reason for someone to clear the history on the computer constantly....dead tip-off they are up to something. My H would do this because he was accessing his yahoo e-mail account and he didn't want me to see what he'd been up to. Got around that by buying a keystroke tracker.
Rather than putting everything I did on here (where someone who is cheating could see it) I'd prefer you e-mail me if you need further clarification on how to go about any of this anitam@nordam.com
