I know why my marriage is SSM. Because I have not talked to my H face to face about the problems. I guess I just haven't had enough of it to confront him and hurt him. AND, I am somewhat afraid of what my part in this is. We all know it takes 2, and I know I have played a part. He has been pretty nice to me lately, in the past several months. Went all out for Valentines day.... flowers sent to work (been 10 yrs at least) took me out to dinner the following week and to the movies and the following week gave me a ruby necklace that was supposed to be ready for V day, but wasn't. BTW I have never once in 24 yrs of marriage received jewelry from him, so thats a first. Hmmmmmmmmmm wonder if all my hinting for months before got the message across about those things.
In the back of my mind I feel if I tell him exactly what I want......... ie; real sex............... I will feel very selfish due to the fact he has ED problems. Viagra is out of the question (heart bypass patient) and he has already said he will never ever use a needle of anykind. Deep Down, I don't wanna be the back guy, kwim?
and the following week gave me a ruby necklace that was supposed to be ready for V day, but wasn't. BTW I have never once in 24 yrs of marriage received jewelry from him, so thats a first. Hmmmmmmmmmm wonder if all my hinting for months before got the message across about those things. 
