I’ve also noticed one other thing…. Your post talk a lot about the fantasy relationship you want. You have mentioned that your wife wants such-and-such type of relationship, but what exactly has she told you that she wants you to change? What are her specific complaints about you?
And don’t dance around this question. Either answer it or not. I’m not going to bother chasing you for the answer. I’ve been reading the Passionate Marriage thread that Julie provided. Back in 2004 your posts sound exactly like they do now. To me this means one of the following possibilities:
1. You do not understand the concepts given here (I doubt this because your thoughts do have some depth and wisdom). 2. You understand the concepts but consciously refuse to move forward because you are afraid of your wife, though you state otherwise on this board. 3. You understand the concepts but consciously refuse to acknowledge them and undertake the necessary changes to get your relationship moving because you are afraid of yourself (this seems credible since you seem to have a very strong, but partially concealed ego). 4. You are just playing a game and “baiting” everyone to stir up attention, for whatever reason.
So which one is it? And again, what are your wife’s complaints?
