I just got through doing this on another BB with another guy who used a term like "desired". If you say to your W, "I want to be desired"....do you not see how vague that is? Do you not see what a HUGE general term that is?
I'm no counselor obiviously...but I will tell you EXACTLY what our MC would say to you if you said that sitting in her office (and BTW...would you get a counselor already!). She'd look you dead in the face and ask you "what does "desire" mean to you specifically?" I know you've written it out on here before, but ya know what? You've never truly gotten specific....your definition still stays fairly general. If you cannot communicate to your W SPECIFICALLY the things you want, you cannot hope to think....she's going to understand you. Why? Because everyone defines something like "Desire" differently.
You are looking for signs of "Desire" that fit your definition of it right? What happens if she's showing her desire for you....but her signs don't fit into your definition of it?
