I want to add something since your W said she wasn't ready when you tried to kiss her. One thing that I have come to know is that the infidel feels worse than you do about the A. Hard to believe, huh? But I have come to the conclusion that I would rather be the one cheated on rather than the one that cheated. They are the one who has to look at themself in the mirror every day and try to justify what they are doing, which they never will, so they are miserable. That's why I advise to keep things positive. Have fun first, no R talk, just have some fun. It doesn't have to cost a thing. A picnic for example. Pick her up around lunch time, have a lunch packed and go eat a park or somewhere where it's sunny and nice. She'll find that to be special and it won't cost anything but time. Remember, she is in a very dark place right now. And another thing that I found out, you only remind her of her betrayal, which again is hard, she knows the pain she caused and it can't be a good feeling. When you show her that your love for her is unconditional, she'll come around because that kind of love is rare!
