Thank you very much It is very helpful my sitch is really confusing at this point I'm seperated from W but she wants to work our M out. (who knows I'm letting her do her own thing) I have been letting her call me, she did make an intresting comment last night (we have been talking about our future) she was taking care of her friends baby and said she wanted to stay in practice. (should I take that as a good sign because she knows I wanted another baby?) Our call got interupted she was supposed to call me back but never did. Her cell was being loaned to a friend, so if the 1 phone was busy till late that would probably be why I didn't get a call.