I can't give you any advice on what to do about your H or even imagine what his problem might be, I can give you advice on one thing: Find SOMEONE who's not your mother to talk about your immediate problems with. Your mother may have good intentions, but she's in no way objective. And you need an objective voice helping you.
If I were in your shoes, personally I'd start by showing up on the doorstep of the pastor/deacon/minister/whatever of whatever church/religion you're most comfortable with. I'm not overly religious in any sense of the word, but when you have nobody else, you have nobody else, and your choices are pretty much limited to doing SOMEthing or doing nothing and sinking deeper into the abyss of misery. When you do nothing, you're guaranteed that nothing will happen. Church pastors/ministers (especially the more non-denominational ones) seem to at least have the will (and some even the training) to deal with perfect strangers who show up out of the blue all overwrought at the front door at all hours of the day or night.
Not only that, but church ministers/pastors/whatever don't stop you after an hour and say, "Well, our hour is up. See you next week."
Just a suggestion. Take it as you wish.
Sabu
It's better to need someone because you love them than it is to love someone because you need them.
