Absolutely LOST! Dug the whole and can't get out!

[BeingMe]

I know that it's going to be difficult to go those last few weeks of your pregnancy alone, but you must face the fact that you may have to. You cannot control your H! You are going to have to find the strength and courage to do this alone. However, you will need some support - are your parents there, siblings, friends? Surround yourself with people who love you and care about you.

DB techniques talk about loving detachment. If you have the book, then read about that. I feel you need to find a way to detach from your H's choices. Maybe, even go dark which means that you should not contact him, and if he contacts you, then you be the one to end the conversation. Give him only enough to keep him informed. Do not bring up R discussions.

I cannot imagine why your H is behaving the way he is, except he may be going through MLC, or just chickening out of his responsibilities - very immature, yes, but some people are like that when under stress.

Just keep calm, don't fight with him, don't cry in front of him, don't beg him to stay, just seek support from others, vent here, find out what your legal options are (doesn't do any harm to know your rights), see a counsellor if you can, and know that this will not be forever. Try setting some goals to help you focus, i.e., eat your fruits and veggies, take your folic acid, read a chapter of a book each day, take a walk each day, and so forth. Write it down, and add to it if needed.

Thinking of ya!