First, The time frame issue I try not to make an issue of. Like you said I do listen and try to understand. My only problem is her not talking about them with me as they came up. I am trying to let it go. I just keep thinking how much easier this would have been back then.
Secondly, I don't try to make all the dicisions. I usually do because her answer is always the same "I don't care". What do you want to eat? Where do you want to go? It's always "I don't care" or "Whatever you want". I do think this is part of the reason she said i'm controlling. I don't try to be but decision have to be made.
