Can I say anything about who my wife talks to?

[doug01]

There are many forms of intimacy. It sounds like some of these can be improved for the two of you. Do you make a lot of decisions together? You are travelling for business, are you the decision maker on the road? You could be carrying that into the marriage. I was, and it caused some of the similar issues that you state.

I used to make the same time frame argument, just let it go. Things happened, and to her, it doesn't matter if it was yesterday or ten years ago. That's just the way it is. I know it's frustrating and don't fall into the trap of trying to defend everything she brings up. Try your best to listen and understand.