The first thing you can do is tell your SO that you realize that you have done this and how bad it makes you feel.
Both of you have to learn to adjust to this life style. It does not come with a manual just like marriage or motherhood does not. We make mistakes along the way and learn from them.
Though it all sounds over the top for me since he is only a DJ not a movie star. I don't doubt what you are saying. We had a couple of guys that came to a local radio station here a few years back. And on air they sounded funny witty and very sexy girls were always calling in. I thought man these guys must be hot. When they started making commercials for there show I about fell over with how god aweful ugly these two were. I mean one had redish curly looking hair and was well overweight. If that could attract all the attention he was getting I can believe that you have to endure alot if your SO is even mildly attractive.
But NM the failure to support was two sided it does not sound like your SO took the time to make you feel secure that his fans where not more important to him then you. And though these people are putting the food on his familys table it does not sound as if he made sure his family came first. It sounds like you both need to learn how to balance out the situation. But this just my opinion.
