Yes, I think you should expect W to work to win you. I think you should expect W to work to help you get past A and do whatever it takes to help you. I think I've said such things before.
NM doesn't seem to have physical intimacy issues. You do. Just like her SO needs to know he can feel admired and valued by NM, your W needs to know that she can feel passion from you and sexual freedom with you.
Both of these things are things that you and NM can work on as individuals. Just because they are things that will help the R doesn't mean that you shouldn't respect yourself enough to expect a P who shows you clearly that they are also invested in the R and in you.
