Quote: I feel like *I* want to be courted & dated.....THAT is most definitely an unrealistic expectation right now
Yes, and yes.
I feel the same way. I feel like she put me through this and now since it's "over" in a way, she needs to go after me. What OT says really rings true here though. BOTH you and I have not REALLY backed off from them enough to give them a chance to pursue us. I know in my case, I can honestly admit that I am afraid my W would NOT do it. She never has, so what makes me think she will now? Of course, my sitch, and hopefully yours, is such that I may not HAVE to pull all the way back but I would hate the reason why I did not to be fear of her rejecting me by a lack of pursuit. I hope that's not the ONLY why we are hesitant to do it.
